Current Estimates are that 1 in 10 residents of Atlanta will face a divorce at some point in their lives. Many of these couples will have children together. In explaining the separation or divorce, you and your ex-partner should state clearly that your relationship has no effect on the relationship between each of you and the kids. Promise them that neither one of you will abandon them, and reassure them to discuss their worries with you.
Here are five ways that you can help your children through a divorce:
- Be Open
Your kids not only need to know what’s going on with your relationship, they also need to feel that it’s okay to talk about the situation and ask questions where necessary. Let your kids know that their opinions and feelings are vital, and try to respond to their questions as openly as possible, in a manner that they can understand and process.
- Stick to Their Usual Routine
To keep stress to a minimum level, try to carry on with the daily routines and usual activities, like visiting friends and family on both sides, and going to clubs and school. It is inevitable that life will surely change now that there is only one parent at home; however, the more usual your routine remains unchanged, the better. This will help your kids feel that, regardless of the hardships, they’re still loved and that life can be somehow normal.
- Let Your Children Know That You Love Them
This may sound obvious, but it is your most vital tip. Your kids need to know that they still have both parents who appreciate them very much, and will always be there for them no matter what. Many kids will feel that it is their fault that their parents divorced, it is therefore important to keep reminding them that they are not to blame for anything. Another common worry among youngster in this state is that they will lose one parent, so, it is always important repeating and showing them that you will always be there for them, both of you.
- Learn to See Things through Their Eyes
While you are possibly worrying about the long term effects and the emotional implications of your new state, your kids may see things very differently. Your children may be more worried about whether they will still be allowed a promised birthday party or whether they will still get their pocket money now that you’re divorcing, for example.
- Spend Time with Caring Friends and Family
Having a supportive network can give you a higher frustration tolerance for the normal everyday things children do. It can also help protect your kids from becoming your confidant and feeling responsible for your emotional well-being.